Even Without Abuse, Sex is Harmful and Should Be Avoided

Even Without Abuse, Sex is Harmful and Should Be Avoided

Why avoid sex? Many women recognize that abstaining from sex can protect them from abuse, but there are plenty of other reasons to consider a life without it. While media and popular culture romanticize sex as exciting and fulfilling, the reality often includes significant downsides—physically, emotionally, and mentally.

The Risks of Sex

Sex can bring immense stress and health complications. For women, particularly in heterosexual relationships, these include:

1. STDs: Testing and treatment for sexually transmitted diseases can be costly, stressful, and stigmatizing. Even with precautions, the risk remains significant.
2. UTIs: Women who have sex with men often experience urinary tract infections, sometimes as frequently as after every encounter.
3. Pregnancy Fears: Even with birth control, the possibility of unwanted pregnancy looms over many women, adding constant stress and anxiety.

Think about it, how in popular media, we see couples quickly jump to sex, with the producers trying to elicit a heavy sense of passion and romance. What you don’t see in media is the 24/7 pain of burning in the genitals, the drive to the doctor’s office, waiting for the invasive STD testing and going on a regimen of antiviral drugs.

Many women would never use another woman’s toothbrush or another woman’s sex toys, so why let in a man’s penis which is often far more unhygienic? It’s because society puts false values on sex with men, and women unnecessarily lower their standards to the lowest depths.

The risks of STD or pregnancy are not rare occurrences—they can occur at any time with any partner and are significant sources of stress for women. Even women-to-women sex, though removing pregnancy as a risk, still carries potential dangers like STDs and emotional fallout. While it’s often portrayed as more liberating, it can still lead to confusion and heartbreak. We here at 4B America do love Chappell Roan, but even the women-to-women promiscuous sex discussed in her music is somewhat a fantasy due to the potential risks of infection.

Can Sex Be Replaced?

Yes, the benefits of sex can be achieved without the risks. Studies show that orgasms are healthy, offering physical and emotional relief. But here’s the thing—orgasms don’t require a partner.

Modern technology, like vibrators, offers safe and effective ways to achieve these benefits without the complications of involving another person. Tools like the Lioness Vibrator even incorporate AI to make the experience tailored and hassle-free.

What About Physical Intimacy?

Physical intimacy is often cited as a reason for pursuing relationships or sex, but let’s be honest—many women in heterosexual relationships never receive the kind of emotional or physical connection they desire. Men are frequently self-centered in bed, prioritizing their own pleasure while leaving their partners dissatisfied.

Moreover, the myth that humans are inherently social in a specific way, requiring deep physical intimacy to thrive, is exaggerated. Fewer people are having sex today than ever before, and society isn’t collapsing. In fact, many women are finding freedom and happiness in their independence. Vibrators and other tools can provide more reliable satisfaction without the risks and complexities of a partner. Men are the ones complaining about loneliness the most, but even many of them don’t care, satisfying themselves with endless video games and fast food.

Plus, it’s possible to have strong connections without any sex at all. Many women have great friendships. Many women are not lesbian and will never have sex with other women, but the connections they have with other women are still much stronger than the ones they have with men they’ve had sex with. Sex oftentimes just complicates or makes things worse, due to the vulnerability and emotional attachment that comes with it.

The Reality of Individualism

Some argue that technology is isolating us, but this isn’t new. Historical photos show people buried in newspapers on trains, avoiding interaction. Humans are adaptable, and our lives don’t require constant connection with others to be fulfilling. Online services now provide entertainment, therapy, and even food delivery. Sex doesn’t need to be an exception. If technology can provide better solutions, why not use them? It’s already been shown that a man’s penis is a poor source of pleasure. There’s no point trying to fight against reality just because media pushes that heterosexual sex is so desirable and fun. Vibrators are great already and they won’t stop evolving.

Why Take the Risk?

The risks of sex—STDs, emotional turmoil, heartbreak, and unwanted pregnancies—outweigh the perceived benefits. With modern tools and a society increasingly open to individuality, sex doesn’t have to be central to one’s life or happiness. Let’s stop idealizing it and recognize that a life without it can be just as fulfilling, if not more so. Vibrators and other advancements are making it easier to embrace this reality, giving women a safer, freer, and more satisfying way to live. ♀