Help Women Go 4B Before They Get Married

Help Women Go 4B Before They Get Married

We need to educate women all across the board about 4B principles, including women who are married and women with children. However, once a woman has been ensnared by the patriarchy, it can often be very difficult for them to exit. The life of domestic servitude often separates women completely from other women. It’s very important to prevent women from ever getting married or having children in the first place, so that they can avoid most of the suffering that this world pushes onto women.

Unfortunately, even if we want to help married women, we are often separated from them by lifestyle. Married women tend to be friends only with other married women. The patriarchal system forces their discussions to be centered around the nuclear family. It’s therefore difficult for separatist women to be friends with married women, who often put their husband and male children first.

To not be able to form friendships with married women can seem problematic. Isn’t this a form of double punishment? Where women are both trapped by the patriarchy, and then also unable to bond with other women. This definitely seems tragic. The problem is that as single women, there is sometimes nothing we can do if a woman is married and fully involved in upholding the patriarchy. We understand that these women are victims, but they may not be ready to hear our message yet. Furthermore, being among women who spend a lot of time around men and who confide everything in men can be dangerous.

The best time to reach women is before they have been married. Women need to know very well that this idea of a beautiful wedding day, large house, and two children, is nothing more than a patriarchal and capitalistic fantasy. The reality for women is a life of domestic servitude. Endless unpaid labor. The husband will neglect his health, play video games all day, drink and do drugs, and waste money gambling. There is no being provided for by a man. The man will force the woman into sex and into doing free labor.

Oftentimes, your best efforts will be in reaching women who are currently single but undecided. They may still be attempting to date men, but wondering why it leads to no where. Now, they won’t have to wonder anymore. By showing them the principles of 4B, you can with detail explain to them why there is no point in trying to have a relationship with a man at all. It’s not just that having a relationship with a man is bad, it’s that we don’t even need men at all. Women have often been taught that being single is undesirable and that we must keep yearning for this mystical life with a man. In actuality, being single is freedom.

On our social media pages, we have many younger radical feminist followers, some who are around the age of 18-20. What can we recommend? Keep doing what you are doing. Every post that you share helps us reach more women. You always have unique followers that others might not have. Additionally, don’t be afraid to boycott situations that are antithetical to separatism. If you are at university and do not like those groups where women center all discussions around men and relations, feel free to leave them behind.

Look for opportunities where you can tutor or mentor younger women. There are programs like these that exist locally in cities all around the globe. You have the chance to show younger women that education and career comes first, not men. Some of their other mentors may believe this, but they aren’t living it fully. Many female teachers and educators still have boyfriends or are married. This is your time to show them that you truly mean it when you want to put women first.

Show women that there is no boyfriend or husband that you need to return home to after spending time with them. This isn’t just free time to pass until the patriarchy calls. No, you have that time to yourself. You don’t spend your days wishing you had a boyfriend or feeling lonely. You have more time to help other women because you don’t have to do unpaid labor or take care of a man.

When women break up with their boyfriends, let them know that there is no reason to be sad. They should be happy, because they are much better off without them.

The hope lies in younger women. Let us show them that they don’t have to captured by the patriarchy. We’re not just here to tell women that the patriarchy is bad, but we will actively be a part of their lives and lead them away from it. Every woman deserves to be free. ♀