Marriage and Relationships Are Weapons to Separate Women

Marriage and Relationships Are Weapons to Separate Women

Think back to your friendships with other women during school. Do you remember those incredibly strong bonds you shared in middle school or high school? Female best friends who did everything together—studying, going out, supporting one another. These were the relationships that were so strong that if women continued them into adulthood, they could team up, acquire property together, and build some of the most successful futures imaginable. Together, women could conquer anything.

But unfortunately, this potential is rarely realized. As women move into their 20s, a man inevitably enters the picture. It’s not a necessity, but for so long, women have been conditioned to believe it is. They are made to believe that their friendships with other women must come to an end as they start the “next phase” of their lives—marriage and children. This is the moment when the separation begins.

Once women enter relationships and marry, they are often pulled in different directions—living in different homes, joining different communities, and spending all their time attending to their husbands and children. For many, their closest female friendships fade as a result. Even those who try to maintain their bonds with female friends find that the demands of marriage and motherhood leave them with little time or energy to nurture these relationships. They are prevented from pooling resources or growing together in the same way they could have if they had remained focused on one another.

In essence, being with a man steals both time and money from women. It’s heartbreaking to see how so many best friends, who would thrive together, are separated just because of the societal pressure to enter the phase of life with a man. This dynamic has been ingrained for centuries through propaganda and the conditioning of women to think that relationships with men are the ultimate goal. But why? Why should we allow this system to continue to divide us?

It’s time to teach women to stand by each other, to stick with their female friends, and to forget about needing a man to validate their lives. Imagine teaming up with three or four other women—living together, building a home or apartment, and pooling resources to create a stronger, more resilient community. Don’t let a man come in and split up the power you have. This has been happening for centuries, since the beginning of humankind. Men have used relationships and marriage to divide women and weaken our collective power.

Now, it’s time for something different. Women, united, will be stronger than ever. Let’s stop letting relationships and marriages tear us apart. Let’s build a future where women work together, support one another, and create lives of independence and strength. The future belongs to us—together. ♀