The Dilemma Women Face

The Dilemma Women Face

Many women find themselves facing an impossible dilemma—caught between two conflicting paths that promise fulfillment, yet lead to disappointment and harm. The traditional route of marriage and motherhood, despite its societal pressure, is often more limiting than liberating. On the other hand, the path of sexual liberation, though marketed as empowerment, is fraught with its own set of challenges that can leave women feeling just as trapped.

The traditional path, one where women are encouraged to marry, have children, and raise a family, has long been the cultural norm. For many women, this remains an ideal, though a boring and restrictive one. The traditional path often results in a woman being placed under the control of a man, relegated to a position that closely resembles that of a long-term household servant. In this arrangement, women’s independence is diminished, their voices silenced, and their roles confined to the domestic sphere. This dependency on a man creates a sense of powerlessness, making it no surprise that many women, yearning for freedom, turn toward the ideals of sexual liberation.

However, sexual liberation is not the utopia it’s often portrayed to be. While the idea of freedom through casual sex might sound appealing, it is riddled with problems. Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), emotional disappointment, and the risk of sexual assault are all too prevalent in this world of promiscuity. Women are biologically more susceptible to diseases, taking on more risk than men through promiscuous sex. Having sex with multiple partners also means that women are forced to form emotional bonds with multiple men—many of whom they may not even like. The physical and emotional toll of promiscuity often leaves women feeling more isolated than liberated. Many women, disillusioned by this path, turn back to traditionalism, seeking the safety of one stable, lifelong relationship with a man, believing that it may be the solution to their frustrations. But as established earlier, this is a trap as well.

At the heart of this dilemma lies the fact that women, in seeking fulfillment through men—whether in the form of marriage, sex, or relationships—are always on an impossible path. They are caught between two options that neither offer true liberation nor lasting happiness. And while some women may be reluctant to accept this reality, the truth remains: stepping away from the influence of men is the only real path to freedom.

There is no route to freedom in any relationship with a man, no matter how idealized the image of the “perfect man” may be. Even within radical feminist circles, where women seek to challenge patriarchal systems, the uncomfortable truth often goes unspoken. But here, we firmly believe that all heterosexual relationships—whether through sex or marriage—are inherently negative. The idea of a “best man” does not exist within the framework of a relationship. This is because a “best man” who truly values a woman’s freedom would recognize that entering into a relationship with her is harmful. A good man would never expose her to the dangers of STDs, the emotional and physical disparities of the orgasm gap, the risks of childbearing, or the confines of marriage. He would decline a relationship or sex with her even if she wanted this from him.

The truth is stark: relationships with men—whether traditional or liberal—are not the answer to a woman’s quest for fulfillment and freedom. The only real freedom comes when women choose to break away from the societal expectations placed on them, to step away from the pressure of pleasing men, and to forge their own paths, free from the constraints of male-dominated systems. Only then can we truly begin to live lives that are ours to define. ♀